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Blaming Others For Your Unhappiness

It is far easier to put the blame on someone else when things go wrong. You can blame your boss for how miserable your job is. You can blame your teacher for your inability to understand the lesson. You can blame your romantic partner for your failing relationship. You can blame your parents for your emotional struggles. And you can even blame the government for the poverty that you suffer. It actually makes you feel much better when you find fault in others, because placing the blame on yourself opens you up to feelings of regret, guilt and even shame. Doing so makes you focus on your own flaws and mistakes. And this may allow feelings of worthlessness to set in. But blaming others for your problems does not solve them. It only adds bitterness to your already miserable state. And by believing that others are at fault for your troubles removes your ability to take control of the situation. It renders you helpless and paralyzes you into simply accepting things as they are. In effe...

How To Get Happiness Back In Your Life: 11 Best Questions To Ask Yourself

Questions that you can ask yourself today, that will shift your perspective and will teach you how to get happiness back in your life by focusing on the right things. How To Get Happiness Back In Your Life: 11 Best Questions To Ask Yourself Eleven simple questions you can ask yourself today that will inspire you to look for the good in life — things that are already working in your life now, and will make you appreciate and recognize them for their benefit and value. These questions will teach you how to get happiness back in your life by focusing on the right things. As life gets busy or when sudden misfortunes arise, these things are sometimes overlooked and left unnoticed amidst the chaos of everyday living. Take the time to answer these questions below and feel how much you have to be thankful for right now. This will help shift your perspective by looking for what’s satisfying wherever you are, instead of what is missing, lacking, or not working. Let’s jump right in! Q...

Choose Carefully the People around You

# Much of what we do is moved by how we want people to see us. We find ourselves forced into social roles that are shaped by the reactions or expectations of those around us. A child will attempt to gain the affection of his parents by exhibiting good behavior. A friend will go along with his peers to continue enjoying a sense of belonging in their presence. And a professional will try to advance his career so that those who know him will regard him as a success. We desire acceptance. We seek positive feedback. Some of us even crave the attention and praise of the significant people in our midst. Our identities are fashioned by the importance we ascribe to how people regard what we say and do. And it is for this reason that we should reflect carefully on the kind of people with whom we associate. Because these individuals will be the people whom we will unavoidably attempt to please. People are by nature tribal. What this means is that once we have identified with a particular gro...